Mendocino, CA · 2027 dates coming soon · Ages 30+
The patterns that got you here won't get you there.
An 8-day immersive to rewire your unconscious patterns and open up to the life you know is possible.
The question beneath the question
You've built a life. Now what?
You've lived enough life to notice your patterns. Maybe you've built a successful career. Started a family. Optimized for independence and spontaneity. Wherever you are now, you're recognizing that patterns you formed decades ago are still subtly and deeply limiting what's possible:
You've spent decades putting others over yourself.
Rest comes with a sense that you “should” be doing something else — unless you've worked hard enough that you “deserve” taking a break.
You say no automatically when someone offers you help, even when it's a genuine offer.
Your body holds decades of bracing.
You've done years of therapy, meditation retreats, and workshops.
You're surrounded by people and still feel alone.
These patterns were initially formed to keep you safe. Now that they're no longer serving you, they can be updated through lived experience, opening space for you to build the life you know is possible.
What you'll practice
Group activities on emotions and relationships
Facilitated group work where we'll explore new emotional and relational territories — grief, joy, shame, desire, boundaries, conflict, self-sabotage, and more — and begin to unwind our conditioned responses.
Somatic awareness
Learning to hear your body's signals in real-time and understand the information they're conveying.
Breathwork & nervous system regulation
Controlled breathing practices that access emotional material held in the body, paired with tools for self-regulation you'll use long after.
Metacognitive awareness
Build awareness of your thought patterns and habituated responses, clearing the space for you to make new choices.
Integration
Daily movement, meditation, and time in nature designed to help you ground and metabolize what surfaces.
Inside a session
What does a session look like?
Every day we'll cover different emotional and relational terrain in an activity-based format. Here are some examples of what that might look like:
Curious how we work?
Read about our approachA day at Sleepawake
Each day, the emotional and relational sessions will cover different emotional territories and compensatory strategies. We'll cover themes like joy, grief, desire, boundaries, shame, judgements, conflict, and more — giving you new frameworks and the opportunity to build new ways of being in all these arenas that will last well after the retreat ends.
- 8:00Breakfast
- 9:00Small group check ins
- 9:30Morning breathwork, embodiment, & opening circle
- 10:00Emotional and relational session (activities & real-time practice)
- 12:30Lunch break
- 13:30Optional office hours & 1:1s with facilitators
- 14:30Emotional and relational session (activities & real-time practice)
- 17:30Grounding meditation for rest & integration
- 18:00Dinner break
- 19:30Creative expression & embodiment practices
- 21:00Open time (journaling, hanging out, self-organized 1:1s with facilitators, or early bed)
This daily rhythm is designed to move through activation and back to regulation multiple times every day, with enough time to fully land each cycle. Everything is opt-in and your “no” will always be honored. After the retreat, we host a 2 month series of optional facilitated calls to support bringing your learnings from the retreat into your day-to-day life.
Who attends
Past cohorts have included executives, therapists, founders, artists, engineers, students, and people in career transition. We expect this cohort to have diverse cultural and professional backgrounds united by readiness for depth, complexity, and earnest engagement with the work.
This might be for you if
- You have attained some level of traditional success, and still crave a deeper sense of fulfillment and alignment
- You feel flatness or melancholy underneath daily life, and want to live in a way that feels more vibrant
- You're navigating a major life transition and old strategies aren't working
- You want to stop living from ‘shoulds’ (or rebelling against ‘shoulds’) inherited from parents, community, and culture — and start living with radical agency and freedom
- You want to parent, partner, or lead from a more honest place
- You have experience with meditation, somatic work, or therapy, or this is your first foray into this work and you're ready to begin a longer journey beyond just this week
This is not for you if
- You're looking for an unstructured week in nature with a little bit of meditation and yoga
- You're not up for the discomfort and fear that will arise as a natural part of the process of expanding your nervous system's capacities
- You are looking for a quick-fix, one-week change, and are not up for the ongoing work of integrating what you learn at the retreat into your day-to-day life
- You are in need of an inpatient mental health support program for an acute crisis
- You are only motivated to come to Sleepawake by others' expectations or a belief that you “should” want to, and do not feel an internal pull or interest that is coming purely from yourself
- You're well under 30, or in the first stages of adult life; our other retreats may be a fit
Investment
Payment plans available upon request.
Tuition
$3,375
60+ hours of guided curriculum with a 5:1 attendee to facilitator ratio.
Room & board
$1,000–$2,300
Options from tent camping to private cabins (subject to availability).
Benefactor
$6,500
Private room + fund a scholarship.
What's included
- 60+ hours of guided emotional and relational work in an intimate group of peers (capped at a 5:1 attendee to facilitator ratio)
- Individual and small-group touchpoints with the facilitation staff
- A series of facilitated integration calls after the program
- Access to a thriving alumni community after the retreat
- Exclusive access to a beautiful forest venue — we'll be the only group on this large retreat property, and you'll have access to hiking trails, a swimming hole, a large garden, and nature just outside your door
- Three meals a day catered by a professional chef, including vegan, gluten free, and high-protein options at every meal
The application process
We curate every cohort intentionally. This process ensures we're a good fit for each other.
- 01
Apply
Complete a brief application sharing what's bringing you to this work. This isn't about being good enough or saying the right thing — it helps us understand how to serve you.
- 02
Connect
A 30 minute interview with one of the facilitators who will be at the retreat. We'll answer your questions and discern how this program might be of benefit to you at this time.
- 03
Prepare
Once accepted, you'll receive preparation materials, a detailed welcome guide, and choose your housing options.
Applications reviewed within 48 hours. Still wondering if this is right for you? Bring it. We want to meet you.
Selected testimonials
“I have spent years in therapy (CBT, DBT, TF-CBT). I've done transcranial magnetic stimulation, plant ceremonies, countless reflection and journaling. Everything had a purpose, but I've felt stuck for years, at an inroads where I've logically processed my trauma but I'm not living fully. After Sleepawake, I feel safer with myself, in relationships, and in the world… This program has provided infinite wisdom and trailheads where I can continue my journey to take ownership of my life.”
“Only takes one week to be more myself for the rest of my life. So, so worth it.”
“The camp and the people in it have taught me that life is not meant to be lived alone. Then they gave me courage to believe that other ways are possible, and tools to take my first steps towards it.”
“It was the first time I have ever felt seen in a group as brave and strong… feel the love of the community.”
A living community
After attending a Sleepawake retreat, you join a living community of 200+ alumni, including:
- Integration calls.
- A series of facilitated calls with your cohort over the months following the retreat, to help you carry what you practiced into your day-to-day relationships.
- A living alumni community.
- A whatsapp group that's active every day, and regular facilitated calls exclusively for alumni.
- Ongoing events.
- Lower-commitment facilitated workshops.
- Resources, book lists, and more.
- We share recommended therapists, retreats, books, and more with alumni upon finishing Sleepawake retreats.
The patterns that got you here won't get you there.
An 8-day immersive in Mendocino for people 30+ ready to update the patterns of a lifetime.
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